Gena’s Resource - 1 week 2025-4-24

2025-4-24 https://alar.my/en/blog considerations for heavy sleepers.

2025-4-7 Forgiveness is what we do for OURSELVES not the other person. Trust is learned and earned.

More on Forgiveness consider https://internationalforgiveness.com/ Dr. Robert Enright, founder of the International Forgiveness Institute“When unjustly hurt by another, we forgive when we overcome the resentment toward the offender, not by denying our right to the resentment, but instead by trying to offer the wrongdoer compassion, benevolence, and love; as we give these, we as forgivers realize that the offender does not necessarily have a right to such gifts.”

2025-3-24 https://mural.co/ used by one of my clients to create a window of tolerance art project online with photo to reflect the hypo and hyper arousal states.

2025-3-12 Special days for Jewish & Christians.

https://momanna.life/hebrew-covenant-calendar-2022-23/

First Fruits Dates 2025-26 listed by Hebrew month/secular calendar.

Nisan 3-29; Lyar 4-27 Sun.; Sivan 5-27 Tu; Tammuz 6-25; Av 7-24 Th: Elul 8-23 Sat; Tishri 9-22 M; Cheshvan 10-21 Tu; Kislev 11-20 Th; Tevet 12-20 Sat; Shevat 2026-1-18 Sun; Adar 2-17 Tu.

Therapy helps you become a ZERO VICTIM.

What is in your caregiver’s tool kit? Consider these helpful hints.

1. Care Giving Apps to consider: Caring Bridge https://join.caringbridge.org/start-a-caringbridge/ Caregivers can easily invite others to join, coordinated solid communication with teams, family, others and feel supported. Easily link to https://support.gofundme.com/ for the ability to receive funds in a clear process, streamlined process. This reduces caregiver stress.

2. First Aid American Red Cross https://play.google.com/store/apps/ or apple. avail in English and Spanish. Get saftey tips on health and issues you need clarity, heart, asthma, diabetes and more.

3. Medisafe: https://www.medisafe.com/ Control your medication journey. free.

4. Insight Timer https://insighttimer.com/ Free option. Reduce stress, use dashboard for reminders, type of relaxation specific to your needs.

5. Dementia Guide Expert. https://engageil.com/home-modules/dementia-guide-app/ Be knowledgeable about what it is and how it affects your self or your family member.

Goals to grow. Habits & patterns to unlock your KIngdom Destiny.

by Curt Landry see curtlandry.com/LS to create your goals via LionSentry. Set your INTENTIONS.

ARt of life be like Kintsugi:

The art of mending with Gold or Silver understanding the bowl is more beautiful and stronger for having been broken.

https://g.page/r/CbhOGLuhHc-sEAI/review

Preferred Vendor: BH-PM.com gold investments.

Disaster relief Suggested boots on the ground provider.

https://mercuryone.org/disaster-relief/

INS: I accept:

Anthem BCBS

Federal BC

United Behavioral Health

Cigna

Aetna

Beacon

Carelon

Kaiser

Humana

Medicare B

UMR

AARP Medicare

Health Advocate EAP

Meritain Health

If you need health insurance contact www.healthcare.gov

open enrollment is Nov. 1, 2024 until Jan. 15, 2025. enrollment after 15 Dec = services begin Feb. 1, 2025.

5 things to Do before you start psychotherapy: Katie Morton

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgC6ZLE8QhY&ab_channel=KatiMorton

1. keep track of your symptoms in what period of time start date stop date.

2. Goals for your self: (ie I want to feel better. I want to get better at …. or communication with my partner.

   If you woke up tomorrow all your problems were fixed what would be different? How would you know thinks were improved? what would have changed? what do you want to get out of therapy?

3. Budget: Ask how much therapy cost you, if you miss a session, cancel what is that cost?

4. List things you want your therapist to help you succeed in.

   You are going to know if this it the right therapist in 4-6 weeks you should feel some traction.

5. Ask for a Free consultation. How long is it? Is is telehealth or in person.

Professionals Resources:

https://www.worldtimebuddy.com/

“The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection.”Johann Hari’s

Declarations:

“I choose as an act of my will to loose all fear, all deception, all despair, all confusion from my soul in Jesus name. I take authority over my mind body, spirit, soul(=mind, will emotions) and bind to me all God has for me power, justice and his perfect shalom.” Shalom means: wholeness, completeness, soundness, health, safety and prosperity. AMEN. who does not want that?

Quotes:

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Say you’re running and you think, ‘Man, this hurts, I can’t take it anymore. The ‘hurt’ part is an unavoidable reality, but whether or not you can stand anymore is up to the runner himself.”― Haruki Murakami,

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” —Viktor Frankl

• Here are some links to helpful websites

• Note: I am not an MD take what you need. Leave the rest.

• SAD Do you notice a seasonal pattern https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/conditions/seasonal-affective-disorder

SELF-CAre from Sunita Osborn:

Here are 5 ways to start caring for the six major domains of your life: physical, professional, relational, emotional, psychological, and spiritual.

• Physical Domain: What is one small, tangible thing you could introduce this week that would improve your sleep, nutrition, or body movement?
   

• Professional Domain: Consider how/if you do anything to wind down after work. What could you do differently to help you transition from work to home life? (If you are not currently working, consider how you could wind down from any transition you experience in your day such as when your child goes down for the night, or after you get home from running errands). Gena How about how do you talk yourself into or through doing a undesired task, prep for a difficult appointment, chore, difficult conversation with someone, deal with a difficult day, boredom.
   

• Relational Domain: Think of one time-management strategy you use in your life to make the most of your energy (i.e., reminders, smartphone apps, a calendar diary). What is one way you could utilize your existing time-management strategies to better maintain your relationships?
   

• Emotional Domain: Consider one aspect of your life that you deeply enjoy, from your favorite hobby to your favorite people. Choose one thing you could do to immerse yourself in this experience a little more deeply.
   

• Psychological and Spiritual Domains: As you reflect on what topics or practices interest or challenge you, identify at least two life classes you want to sign up for in the next year.

• Gena in the Spiritual. Pray and ask God to show you where he was in the trauma? or Just ask God for confirmation. He can say yes, no and WAIT. that is hardest so no or not now may be his answer he is not a vending machine. What is God calling you to this year? How are you continuing to use your “calling”? your “gifting.” I believe everyone has a God given talent. They do not remain stagnant. I say Go and Grow….be amazing. What is your super power. Refuse to stay stuck. To stay the same is regression. Change is inevitable.

• https://psychcentral.com/health/grey-rock-method Use with toxic relationships, narcissism.

beware of betterhelp and caredash:

• Scammers prey on individuals through third party websites.

• I offer a free consult to potential clients to ensure we are a good fit.

• Click Here: 360civic.com/blog/caredash

time converter: https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html

• Click Here: worldtimebuddy.com

• a website that converts between time zones

UnPlanned Pregnancy:

Mercy Multiplied

• Click Here: Mercymultiplied.com

• Get support from people who want to help

• Mercy Multiplied pays for transportation to their program

• Free to participant

• Place to stay if needed

• Christian

WOMEN’s Conference

• Click Here: newlife.com/lumina

APP’s

• Need help with sleep?

• Click Here: neurocycle.app

• Recommended by Carolyn Leaf

abuse:

1. Physical

2. Emotional

3. Sexual

4. Spiritual abuse: suggested reading: The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse.

addictions:

• Parent’s Quick Guide to Electronic Addiction: Jay berk Ph.D.

• Click Here: jayberkphd.com

• Mike Lindell Frankspeech.com https://lindellrecoverynetwork.org/

• John Volkcn Academy Addictions tx ranch style, skills, cost effective. www.volken.org/apply-now/

• RESOURCES global: https://www.brucekalexander.com/links-lists-books; https://www.brucekalexander.com/audio-video

• Prof. Marc Lewis Neuroscience: Addiction as Learning- the missing link? https://memoirsofanaddictedbrain.com/media/ The Biology of Desire: why addiction is not a disease. Dr Oliver Morgan: Addiction, Attachment, Trauma Recovery. Addiction and Spirituality a multidisciplinary approach.e https://bit.ly/oliver-addiction.

• Un-Addiction: 6 Mind Changing Conversations That Could Save a Life by Nzinga Harrison

• A Piece of Cake by Cupcake Brown 

• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

• Laurel Parnell Attachment Focused-EMDR Rewiring the Addicted Brain https://drlaurelparnell.com/

• Stephen Porges Poly Vagal Theory https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/ https://janwinhall.com/

• Dr Bill Matulich https://motivationalinterviewingonline.org/ How to Do Motivational Interviewing: A Guidebook — Bill Matulich Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change — William R. Miller and Stephen Rollnick

• EPIGENETICS & ADDICTIONS: The Mystery of Happiness: A Step By Step Journal of Gratitude Dr. Evelyn Higgins https://doctorhiggins.com/

• Steve Hoskins organicintelligence.org.  — A Non-Directive Positive Reinforcement Framework for Trauma and Addiction Treatment. International Body Psychotherapy Journal - Download for Free at https://organicintelligence.org — 5 Minute Video: "3 Misconceptions of Trauma Work" — The End of Trauma Podcast

• SOMATIC EXPERIENCING: D

• Joshua Sylvae https://sylvae.net. https://sylvae.net/workshops/

• Stephanie Brown Speed: Facing Our Addiction to Fast and Faster -- and Overcoming Our Fear of Slowing Down https://www.stephaniebrownphd.com/about.

• Rachel Wurzman eekhealing.org

• Dr Sherif Darwish Recovery Egypt by going to: www.recoveryegypt.com Addiction as a heart matter. Addiction as an Attachment Disorder.

• Bonnie Badenoch MFT https://www.nurturingtheheart.com/ Nurturing the Heart with the Brain in Mind, a nonprofit organization dedicated to fostering awareness of the brain, mind, and relationships in the service of creating a more awake and compassionate world. Being a Brain-Wise Therapist: A Practical Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology (W. W. Norton, 2008), and is an active member of the Global Association for Interpersonal Neurobiology Studies (GAINS).

• Liam O’Mahony is an addiction counsellor and the Founder https://pcpsi.ie/ PCPSI - an innovative psychotherapy training provider based in County Cork, Ireland. The Heroic Role of Intention.

• Attachment-Informed and Intergenerational Narrative: We Are Such Stuff as Stories Are Made On with Linda Cundy,

• Dr. Laurence Heller, NARM Founder and NARM Training Institute Senior Faculty, presents a comprehensive overview of the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM). see his youtube talk.

• Dr Pat Ogden Founder Sensorimotor Institute www.sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org. co-founder of the Hakomi Institute

  https://sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org/ https://sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org/curriculum/webinars/

• Dr Fleet Maull Mindfulness, Raical Responsibility & Recovery. Prisonmindfulness.org RadicalResponsibility.com

• Eric Zimmer Integrating Behavioral Science & Spirituality To Achieve Lasting Recovery. Addiction is a syndrome. “when in doubt zoom out.” Respond wisely. Q: Will this matter to me in 5 hours, 5 days, 5 weeks.” Ted talks. The Battle of Changing your Behavior. https://www.oneyoufeed.net

• CANNIBIS GROUP: Cannabis Induced Psychosis (CIP) (online 2025-1) WED’s EST 8pm, 7pm CST, 6pm MST; 5pm PST. JohnnysAmbassadors.org/together. Please send questions to Laura@JohnnysAmbassadors.org.

• BOOK Dr Edi https://dreditheger.com/

• RESOURCE: Keystone Habits, Treaties & Alliances, Consistency - build freq then duration, then intensity. Concentrate your Armies-

• SPIRITUAL PRINCIPALS per Eric Z. sc of behavior change to do more often. 1. intension why do what I do. 2. Self compassion 3.Be present 4. Accept ance as it is 5 Perspective 6 the middle way binaries 7. Generosity 8 Graditude 9 HOPE. How we bring these moment to moment to our life. * Still points. Have a lot to do and hurry and rushing. I can seek ways to distract mind and hold it differently window down vs death grip of the strearing wheel as I drive to my destination. Let go of feeling the hurry. Be busy without the hurry. Buddist Niall McKeever suggest 10 SLOW down The ruthless release of Hurry. He notes the concept of q

• BOOK: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World

• BOOK: Beyond Addiction

• BOOK: HUMOR Complete Calvin and Hobbs.

• BOOK: GK Chesterton Quotes https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/7014283.G_K_Chesterton

• Dr Eric Garland PhD Rewire Your Brain Reward System.

• Guy du Plessis: South Af. Addictions specialist BOOK An Integral Guide to Recovery http://www.guyduplessis.com

  ADHD

• ADHD adult website https://www.additudemag.com/download/better-time-management/?src=embed_link

• Additude “Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is an intense emotional response caused by the perception that you have disappointed others in your life and that, because of that disappointment, they have withdrawn their love, approval, or respect. The same painful reaction can occur when you fail or fall short of your rather high goals and expectations. RSD commonly occurs with ADHD, and causes extreme emotional pain that plagues both children and adults — even when no actual rejection has taken place.” (2025-2-4)

• https://pomofocus.io/ timer to help with efficiency.

• GROUP: contact@coloradocac.com Adult ADHD Support - Wednesdays from 4:30-6 pm

  Recently diagnosed with ADHD as an adult? This workshop will help you address some of the ways to set yourself up for success! You’re going to learn about time management, prioritization and keeping to-do lists, goal-setting, techniques for behavior change, organizational skills, and strategies and accommodations at work. by Dr. Madelyne Losby

  • Wednesdays from 4:30 - 6:00 pm. ?virtual.

    • **Note** Each session is a standalone workshop - you only need to register for one session (unless you just really like us and want to come more than once!)

• ADDitude Deficient emotional self-regulation (DESR), coined by Dr. Russell Barkley, refers to impulsivity coupled with emotional dysregulation.

• CAMP ADHD: https://soarnc.org/gap-year/

• Clocks that move and get louder https://www.amazon.com/stores/Clocky/page/E0A1A74E-DD71-4FF5-AC3A-CC928SA4E9086?ref_=ast_bln

• Wemo Insight Smart Plug with Energy Monitoring, WiFi Enabled Turn off lights remotely.

• Wake-up Light HF3531_60 _ Philips

• Knock Knock Make a Decision Pad by Knock Knock

• GIFTS-ADHD Toys for Adults_Gifts ie Calendreco perpetual wall calendar

  PTSD: https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/dr-victor-carrion-how-to-heal-from-post-traumatic-stress-disorder

• SLEEP: https://www.eightsleep.com/pod-cover/

• ANXIETY & DEPRESSION: RESOURCES: aNXIETY & DEPRESSION ASSOC. OF aMERICA.

• postpartum depression https://www.postpartumdepression.org/treatment/therapy/

• https://adaa.org/understand-anxiety-depression/share-your-story

• Learning issues: https://www.parentcenterhub.org/ld/#char

• ADHD processing training for professionals resource https://sensoryhealth.org/

  ADDitude: resource list:

• MyOptimalBrain.com  | welcome@innerOptimal.com  | 760-633-3328 | CA (ONLINE).

• The ADHD Center for Success: CA, Hawaii & Florida. ADHD eval. & education adultsto adults. theadhdcenterforsuccess.com

• sachscenter.com  | 646-603-0491 | NY, NJ, CT, MD, FL
  amenclinics.com  | 888-696-7741 ie Football teams & concussion.

• Procrastination https://duckduckgo.com/?q=youtube+therapy+to+stop+procrastination+of+paperwork&atb=v393-1&iax=videos&ia=videos&iai=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DFWTNMzK9vG4

• Attention Deficit Disorder Clinic of Scottsdale, AZ
  Founded in 1985, we offer comprehensive evaluation and testing, including the TOVA and IVA, rating scales and Quantitative EEG Topographic Brainmaps, utilizing six normative databases including one from the Brain Research Labs at NYU. Treatment is multi-modality and can include individual and family counseling, behavior modification, QEEG-based neurofeedback and/or medication. Robert L. Gurnee, MSW, QEEG/Diplomate, Director. add-clinic.com 

  Anxiety:

• Emetophobia (fear of vomiting) https://adaa.org/living-with-anxiety/personal-stories/living-emetophobia-college-student

• https://adaa.org/webinar/consumer/how-free-yourself-fear-vomit-and-reclaim-your-life

• Over thinking Can’t sleep, over analyzing, obsessing did I lock the door.

  Endless spiral of thoughts. thinking has purpose but over thinking is not helpful. Catastrophize. Analyzisis paralysis. Relive mistakes from the past.

• over thinking cycle. LOOP. It is not random. I is a predictable loop. 1. triggers 2. thoughts, feelings, behavior, consequences back to #1.

• Text to friend. They do not respond right away. Thoughts “did I say something wrong? Are they mad at me? Are they ghosting me?

• Feelings. worry, anxiety.

• Behavior keep checking the phone, obsessively. body tense.

• Consequences: Brain is wired to seek solution.

• Back to Trigger. No resolution keeps the loop going. Keep checking phone all night long.

• primary emotions, also known as basic or fundamental emotions, are considered to be happiness, sadness, fear, anger, disgust, and surprise. guilt, shame, envy, pride, and embarrassment. 

  5 reasons for this loop

• 1. Anxiety: Amy seek to detect danger prep for danger. Anxiety sees every thing in alert mode. Snowball bad thoughts

• 2 Perfectionism. Fear of getting it wrong, not good enough, fear of making mistakes or failure. this prevents action

• 3 Fear of Failure. The what if Spiral. Anticipatory anxiety. the brain creates worry or fear over events or situations that might happen in the future. Problems might never exist. Avoid risk so miss opportunities.

• 4 Past experiences: hippocampus links to past negative events. So a bad break up is life long warning sign for all relationships. Or social rejection is a survival threat rather than a lesson to be learned. Our past is not a puzzle to be solved but a series of lessons to be learned.

• 5 Over Active Threat detection system DMN =Default Mode Network. Is active when not focused on a task. Spirals in worry. In worrier. If I think hard enough I will find a solution

• SOLUTIONS to over thinking. 1. Name it to tame it. I am stuck in a worry loop. 2. Set a worry window. Set a timer then move on. Use distraction to move on. 3. Take action. Just choose one. Go for it. Analysis paralysis our brain needs data to choose what is safe. If this is you choose the smallest step forward. Over thinking is not who you are. It is just a habit you have developed.

• ESA = emotional support animal:

• When meeting with therapist ask for letter for housing and travel. Give details of the pet, type, weight, up to date on shots ie: last visit to the vet.

• https://www.splootvets.com/

  Weaponized Incompetence or Strategic Incompetence: Youtube Kati Morton.

• 1. They pretend to be bad at a task. It is not a skill issue but a responsibility issue. see Chris Argyis 1986. “Skilled incompotence.”

• @themillenialmanager Acting like they do not know

• Jared Sandberg Wall Street Journal 4-17-2007. “Strategic Incompotence.” that this takes practice. This is conscious and intentional actions, to under perform say “botch a spread sheet or burn dinner” so they are not enlisted to perform a task. This transfers the burden to someone else.

• Media example Riding in Cars with Boys. “women want to forgive even a total screw up they want to help. It is in their nature or something. …you gotta tell them you need their help or else they won’t do it.” Or The sitcom The OFFICE . “People have to clean up after themselves”…. the staff confronts the temp worker that he needs to clean up the microwave after himself. His response is he will make it worse with use of a paper towel…. that he is hopelessness. And he walks off. " What would you do? Email HR tell them the temp is failing to follow health and safety rules? A colleagues direct line mgr?

• It is not laziness or lack of expertise. It is about delegation. They struggle with sending basic invites, or only wait on tables without the restocking functions that all are expected as a function of closing. Do it quickly and undermine the task’s importance. It is not about being bad at it but avoid responsibility with the goal to shift power and avoid discomfort, or fear or failure or perfectionism. It creates a power balance issue one person does all the work leaving them feeling underappreciated and over worked, trapped. This thus erodes trust and mutual respect.

• HOME FRONT: Messing up the grocery list task. “Can you wash the dishes so I can dry them? Sure what dishes. The dirty ones.” “how many? All of them. “ She notes the subject chucks the plate and throws a tantrum. Dry the bottles. It creates resentment as one person may feel it is easier to do it vs the work to get them to do it or "I forgot”. “you are just so much better at organizing…” It is literally one step. They act like you are unreasonable to ask or if the item moved location in the past decade. The baked in roles that some families get use to and thus do not expect a person to show up and do their task, role, part in life in that family, job, society.

• Checklist. 1. Do simple tasks poorly. 2. Don’t take responsibility for their portion of work even when asked. 3. Others do their portion of work. 4. You do not trust then to do something when asked. 5 You feel taken advantage of. You know it is intenstional if they can do other things other areas.

  DO: 1. Bring it to their attention. 2. Let’s practice … together” present in non-judgmental way. They many not realize they are doing it. 3 set boundaries. Express your limits. 4 Let go of perfectionism. They will not do things your way. Do not rescue them to “do it right.” Notice your role in this. See video hyper independence. Do we not express our discontent. You do not have to do it ALL YOURSELF.

• ATTACHMENT STYLES:

  Katie Mortneson: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pL1NBH7LrXk&ab_channel=KatiMorton

  Attachment Focused-EMDR (AF-EMDR):

• ADDitude “Rejection sensitive dysphoria causes feelings of guilt, shame, and rejection. This on top of your ADHD — and mixed in with the resulting anxiety or depression. I struggle with RSD, and I’m here to say you are not alone — and you are not weak.” https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-adhd-anxiety-depression/

• Laurell Parnell https://parnellemdr.com/event/rewiring-the-addicted-brain-with-emdr-based-treatment/?inf_contact_key=26041d6d

• Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

• By: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller

  MILESTONES speech https://www.stanfordchildrens.org/en/topic/default?id=age-appropriate-speech-and-language-milestones-90-P02170

• https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/actearly/milestones/index.html

• https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/actearly/milestones-app.html

  https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/6004-dysautonomia

  Building Supplies:

• CO-https://www.unclebennysbuildingsupplies.com/

  cult:

• “The Truth or The Way or 2 by 2” news update https://apnews.com/article/christian-sect-child-sex-abuse-scandal-a94073c27168a7998c1a225f72672a3d#

• Dermatology: Psychodermatology.

• https://loumbeauty.com/

• DEVELOPMENTAL MILESTONES:

  https://www.cdcrehab.com/developmental-checklist

  Eating Disorders:

• https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/get-help/

• HOSP- Treatment- in-patient

  • Kids: https://www.childrenscolorado.org/doctors-and-departments/departments/psych/programs/eating-disorders/

  • ADULTS & kids : https://www.eatingrecoverycenter.com/

• Books:

• am i hungry? Michelle May MD https://amihungry.com/

• CognitiveBehavioral Therapy for Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder Jennifer J Thomas Kamryn T Eddy.

• Health at Every Size Linda Bacon Phd

• Intuitive Eating by Eveyln Tribole RD & Elyse Resch MS

• Life Without Ed (Tenth Anniversary Edition): How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too

• By: Jenni Schaefer

• Mindful Eating Jan Chozen Bays MD

• The Picky Eater’s Recovery Book: Overcoming Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder by Jennifer J. Thomas, Kendra R. Becker, et al

• Michelle May MD AM i HUNGRY books.

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuzTS2tKF8Y&ab_channel=DonnaCarlson

• 2024-1-6 The Anti-Resolution Plan: How to Eat with Ease https://amihungry.com/antiresolutionplan

• https://amihungry.lpages.co/anti-diet-challenge/?inf_contact_key=90cc6d95a1d2edec82596a22d9c496f3842e902fbefb79ab9abae13bfcb46658

• https://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/149132/the-strategy-sherpa-show-with-guest-michelle-may?inf_contact_key=e7afc2a53b7ed75119c109ee67a714cd09c74070ac2bf3cfa7869e3cfd4ff832

• https://www.perspectivesonhealthcare.com/podcast/michelle-may-a-family-physicians-perspective-on-healthcare/?inf_contact_key=38455d226a4040f0188643f56d3575a31b0a3f0fd3ee5d9b43fb34c6613498d7

• TREATMENT

  https://www.eatingrecoverycenter.com/events/prospective-patient-open-house

• https://www.lalunacenter.com/

• Anorexia Nervosa Tx: Adolescents Virtual treatment Stanford. https://clinicaltrials.gov/study/NCT05563649

• ED conf: information@iaedpfoundation.com

  Finances:

• Medical Credit cardS:

• https://www.carecredit.com/

• Ins brokers

• https://www.coloradohealthinsurancebrokers.com/

• https://planfinder.connectforhealthco.com/input-your-information

  FOMO Fear of missing out: https://health.clevelandclinic.org/understanding-fomo

  COUPLES:

• 5 Love Languages: Gary Chapman. According to marriage counselor Dr. Gary Chapman, the five love languages are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.  Self Tests are avail on the web. https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

• https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes

• Emotion Focused Couples Counseling: (EFCT) https://iceeft.com/what-is-eft/ See books by Sue Johnson https://holdmetightonline.com/ OR or Created for Connection https://www.christianbook.com/apps/easyfind?Ntt=created+for+connection&N=0&Ntk=keywords&action=Search&Ne=0&event=ESRCG&nav_search=1&cms=1&ps_exit=RETURN%7Clegacy&ps_domain=www

• BOOK How We Love. Mian & Kay Yerkovich (also workbook same name.) why every marriage gets stuck.

• online recovery groups women with husband who have sexual integrity issues. https://liferecoverygroups.com/meetings/women-in-the-battle-2/

• Elana Katz you tube to seek divorce in a way of respect. https://miller-law.com/podcast/the-emotional-repercussions-of-divorce/

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZWf2_2L2v8&ab_channel=RSA

• Attorney: Fort Collins Sara Lamborn.

• SEXUAL INTEGRITY:

  SEXUAL ADDICTION 12 STEPS https://slaafws.org/download/core-files/The_Twelve_Steps_of_SLAA.pdf

• Marketing therapist resources

• ulma and headway

DEPRESSION

SPANISH RESOURCE: https://healthunlocked.com/ansiedad-depresion-apoyo

Support Group online https://healthunlocked.com/anxiety-depression-support

KIDS youtube on SAD https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Xd__JqsHWU&ab_channel=MichaelD.Nelson%2CCMHC

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Xd__JqsHWU&ab_channel=MichaelD.Nelson%2CCMHC

GRIEF:

prolonged grief resouce:

https://prolongedgrief.columbia.edu/what-it-is/

https://prolongedgrief.columbia.edu/product/pgtweb/

Before family have lost memories:

Book: Tell Me Your Story Dad.

KID-resources

TRACKING for RPT https://www.meehanmentalhealth.com/rpt-tracking-guide.html

• massage:

• Discover Massage https://www.massagetherapyfortcollins.com/

• https://balancedbodiesmassage.massagetherapy.com/home Ranae Hawkos Fort Collins, CO.

  HEALTH:

• Dry mouth client recommended Biotene

• Natural options for healing body. https://rumble.com/v5gkhhp-dr.-bryan-ardis-shocking-therapies-for-treating-covid.html

• NOTICE “ https://www.jbc.org/article/S0021-9258(23)01735-0/fulltext SARS-CoV-2 spike ectodomain targets α7 nicotinic acetylcholine receptors

• A potential protective effect of smoking and of nicotine on SARS-CoV-2 infection has been noted. Until recently [39], no firm conclusions could be drawn from studies evaluating the rates of current smokers in Covid-19. All these studies [40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 48], although reporting low rates of current smokers, ranging from 1.4 % to 12.5 %, did not take into account the main potential confounders of smoking including age and sex. In the study that two of us are reporting [1], the rates of current smoking remain below 5 % even when main confounders for tobacco consumption, i.e. age and sex, in- or outpatient status, were considered. Compared to the French general population, the Covid-19 population exhibited a significantly weaker current daily smoker rate by 80.3 % for outpatients and by 75.4 % for inpatients. Thus, current smoking status appears to be a protective factor against the infection by SARS-CoV-2. Although the chemistry of tobacco smoke is complex, these data are consistent with the hypothesis that its protective role takes place through direct action on various types of nAChRs expressed in neurons, immune cells (including macrophages), cardiac tissue, lungs, and blood vessels.

  Mechanisms engaged in Covid-19 as nAChR disease might be tentatively suggested. There is structural evidence supporting the hypothesis that SARS-CoV-2 virus is a nicotinic agent. The recently reported X-ray structure of the RABV glycoprotein (G) ectodomain [49] shows that the region corresponding to the neurotoxin-like peptide is exposed at the G surface, in agreement with the fact that this region is part of the major antigenic region II of RABV [50]. The recently published cryo-EM structure of the trimeric SARS-CoV-2 spike (S) protein [51, 52] revealed an insertion with respect to that of SARS-CoV-1, in a loop that is disordered in the reported structure, and which has a polybasic sequence that corresponds to a furin site. Importantly, this exposed loop of the SARS-CoV-2 S protein also contains a motif that is homologous to that of snake neurotoxins and to the RABV neurotoxin-like region (Figure 1). This observation supports the hypothesis that SARS-CoV-2 virus itself is a nAChR blocker.

  Figure 1.

  The neurotoxin motifs. Amino acid sequence alignment of the motifs found in toxins from snakes of the Ophiophagus (cobra) and Bungarus genera, in G from three RABV strains and in S from SARS-CoV-2.

  Nicotine may be suggested as a potential preventive agent against Covid-19 infection. Both the epidemiological/clinical evidence and the in silico findings may suggest that Covid-19 infection is a nAChR disease that could be prevented and may be controlled by nicotine. Nicotine would then sterically or allosterically compete with the SARS-CoV-2 binding to the nAChR. This legitimates the use of nicotine as a protective agent against SARS-CoV-2 infection and the subsequent deficits it causes in the CNS. Thus, in order to prevent the infection and the retro-propagation of the virus through the CNS, we plan a therapeutic assay against Covid-19 with nicotine (and other nicotinic agents) patches or other delivery methods (like sniffing/chewing) in hospitalized patients and in the general population.

  In conclusion, we propose, and try to justify, the hypothesis that nAChRs play a critical role in the pathophysiology of SARS-CoV-2 infection and as a consequence propose nicotine and nicotinic orthosteric and/or allosteric agents as a possible therapy for SARS-CoV-2 infection. Interestingly, ivermectin, which has been recently shown to inhibit the replication of SARS-CoV-2 in cells in vitro [53], is a positive allosteric modulator of α7 nAChR [54]. The nicotinic hypothesis might be further challenged by additional clinical studies and by experimental observations determining whether SARS-CoV-2 physically interacts with the nAChR in vitro, for instance by electrophysiological recordings, high resolution EM and by animal model studies. Further work should also specify the still enigmatic relationships between ACE2 and nAChRs in the nervous system.

  One should not forget that nicotine is a drug of abuse [55] responsible for smoking addiction. Smoking has severe pathological consequences and remains a serious danger for health. Yet under controlled settings, nicotinic agents could provide an efficient treatment for an acute infection such as Covid-19. “

• Making choices difficult choices is what each of us must do every day. I just read an journal some might appreciate as you enter this fall season. https://www.jbc.org/article/S0021-9258(23)01735-0/fulltext “ SARS-CoV-2 spike ectodomain targets α7 nicotinic acetylcholine receptors “ near the end of the article “Thus, current smoking status appears to be a protective factor against the infection by SARS-CoV-2. Although the chemistry of tobacco smoke is complex, these data are consistent with the hypothesis that its protective role takes place through direct action on various types of nAChRs expressed in neurons, immune cells (including macrophages), cardiac tissue, lungs, and blood vessels. “

• https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2024/03/21/what-is-black-seed-oil-good-for/72864780007/

  HORDING: https://konmari.com/about-the-konmari-method/

• https://www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/31-beginner-babysteps/

• HORMON THERAPY:

• Mallory Clinic 970-669-9245 Loveland, CO

• Good Day pharmacy compounding located in Fort Collins only, Ann Carter - pharmacist & hormones specialist. Hormones for Adult women. She works with your PCP for Rx. (Priv Pay!) https://calendly.com/annecarter

• TEENS ACNE: https://thedrardisshow.com/clear-skin-system

• IFS: Internal Family System-part Richard Schwartz PhD.

• https://www.selfcapacities.com/products

• Katie Morton: intro https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gymev70IGiI&ab_channel=KatiMorton

  KIDS https://www.meehanmentalhealth.com/the-playful-therapist-blog

  IFS: Internal Family Systems: Richard Schwartz

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gymev70IGiI&ab_channel=KatiMorton

• Narcissism:

• TOOLS: use AI GPT to help you with your text, emails with narcisists.

• https://health.clevelandclinic.org/grey-rock-method

• Divorcing a Narcissist the lure the loss the law. by McKenna

• https://outofthefog.website Help for understanding personality types.

• Dr. Ramani Durvasula see youtube Narcissisim or NPD: Narcissistic Personality Disorder. https://youtu.be/IEfS-_a21kk See also youtube 4 Types of Nacissism by Ramani Durvasula PhD.

  Dr. Allen Francis. can’t diagnosis someone because you don’t like them. They can be a jerk and they say nothing wrong with them is they do not seek treatment to get the dx. Narcissism is the second hand smoke of psychiatry not about the dx it is the behaviors that are not good for you to be in the presence of this. “Self-confidence is healthy state they don’t talk over others and ahead of everyone else….they can stay quiet about it.'“

• Kati Morton Psychotherapist & youtuber

• 2025-3-3 INVERTED or COVERT NARCISSIST: she states the following: Notice they are shy, play the victim, self-depreciating, subtle disappointment in you to make YOU feel GUILTY.

• 1. Unbelievable Negative attention: (neg. boss…) externalized blame= they never take responsibility, deflect, do not handle criticism well, passive aggressive. then give you the silent tx, seek to make you feel guilty.

• 2. Hypersensititivity & Passive agressiveness: “heh I think you forgot to call me back. sarcasmim or jokes.

• 3. Complisult: The insult disguised as a compliment. “hey that dress looks way better than the one you wore last week.” … that job working out so great to hear. For once.’ = confusion. suble gas lighting.

• 4. Reality Distortion Field/ gas lighting 101: Recording of them exactly what they said. They to say you are just miss remembering. Wow you are so sensitive. This is a psychological weapon that manipulates you into doubting your own. memory. Over time IT WORKS.

• Do they know what they are doing? They believe their own story. They crave validation, admiration. They control and manipulate to keep attention on themselves. They believe own victimhood to get what they want. They hate boundaries.

• #1 Boundaries: what the respondent to the narcissist needs to do so we are NOT guilted into behaviors. Take a step back. They will likely sulk call them out. Do NOT apologize. Call them out on the complisult directly.

• #2 Document their Gas Lighting: Keep a journal of what is happening.

• #3 STOP Playing the caretaker role: Do not allow them to put their happiness, stability, self-worth stability on your actions. Elict your devotion, fix them, or if you are a people pleaser, conflict avoider. YOU are never responsible for someone elses happiness. Accusations will arise. “you are: selfish, rude, cold. “ This is a test. As you distance yourself from the control you will gain emotional energy, increased sense of self. Let go of their “covert humility.” It is an illusion they are not humility. Break free. Find you.

• INSOMNIA:

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=41BX9zn_qZo&ab_channel=Wallace%26Gromit

• https://www.eightsleep.com/pod-cover/

• resources https://www.wakingup.com/

• insight timer or calm appt.

• Communal Narcissist. They need the gala, the parties, the party. They need to smile and be seen. It is not comfortable as they are very empty inside to live with this lack of empathy, loneliness, all the use of Chem. Dep. and often the depression seen as irritability, “covert narcissism”:- ie: Eore. Woe is me no one understands me, look down trodden, we think depressed are personality pattern, also bipolar can look like narcissism. So substance can make tx complex are post tx the difficult person they are that is baseline, lack of empathy.

• Different types of NPD. 9 patterns 1. lack of empathy, grandiosity, entitlement, superficiality, chronic seeking external validation, arrogance, tend rage or tend to exploit others.

• TOXIC Narcissist/Malignant: exploit others, lie, cheat, work “the system” can be successful, may feel like psychopath-no sense of remorse. NPD will at times remorseful to make it right, mean spirited edge. When you first meet them they are very charismatic & charming, show and tell. Run big companies.

• 1 Classic NPD Grandiose Narcissist: Brag a lot show off a lot. I am special, not as exploitative. No core sense of self.

• 3 Covert/vulnerable Narcisist. Nobody gets me. I am ahead of my time. At home over computer. Look depressed, hypersensitive to critisim, failure to launch. The world does not know this but I am the best. Lead with low self-esteem. Weird pause. The world passed them by the world owes me, with an edge. They are so ungrateful.

• #4 Communal Narcissist. Hashtag help the project help the …. lots of media this gets them validation. People they work with them they are mean, unkind. How do they treat people with they have power over.

• #5Benign Narcissist: says very superficial things, mean spirited. They will continue to do so even after you set the boundary. That was unkind.

• NPD: they do not have a sense of self. Set goals which give them approval based how to set their goals. They use the nacisistic supply what do you have that then need so they cultivate the realationship, how that benefits them. The characteristiecs self, goals setting, empathy, intimacy. Unable to self-regulate. These things make them deeply resentful. Thank you Dr. D.

• NUTRITION:

• Tri-Athletes see the Nutrition segment of this book for Athletes. https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Fast-Track-Triathlete/Matt-Dixon/9781937715748

• YELLOW RUNNER Ultra runner podcast. https://www.sallymcrae.com/choose-strong-podcast

• May 6th is International No Diet Day

• CO- Katie Kissane RD Works with endurance athletes. https://www.fuel2run.com/ tracking options:https://cronometer.com or MealLogger app

• meal plan starter https://www.fuel2run.com/nutrition-resources

• Tracy Brown RD CO-Fort Collins. https://healbytheword.com/

• RD: Registered Diatician: https://jessicalynnnutrition.com/ Colorado

• Tower Garden https://aw51326.towergarden.com/us/en/meet-tower-garden/what-are-aeroponics

  PROCRASTINATION:

• Revenge Bedtime Procrastination: In China they have these schedules of 9-9-6 = 9 hours day/ 6 days a wk. Sleep study by Dr Mathew Walker. 7.5b hrs week is per studies needed per day.

  sandplay resources:

• https://www.meehanmentalhealth.com/the-playful-therapist-blog/sandtray-miniature-paralysis-check-out-the-top-10-figures-used-in-my-practice

• Spiritual Resources:

  • Sean Feucht https://www.letusworship.us/

  • Cindy Jacobs is all about intercessory prayer. https://www.generals.org/

    Lord of Hosts Omaha decree. aHR0cHM6Ly9tZXNzYWdlY29udGVudC1wdWJsaWMuczMuYW1hem9uYXdzLmNvbS91c2VyZGF0YS9hRlU4SDVPV3pVVTYvbW1zLzExNzY2Mjk1L2ltYWdlLzEvR2t6TEI2eUQvNC44LmpwZw==

  • Bishop Bill Hammon of Christian International Ministry

  • Cindy Jacobs Speaks on Intercession. Generals International (GI) is a prayer-based organization founded by Mike and Cindy Jacobs in 1985 that exists for the purpose of changing lives and transforming nations.

  • https://www.generals.org/21-days-to-reverse-the-curse-over-america 21 days of prayer.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bMa5c68uryU&ab_channel=CindyJacobs

  • https://www.generals.org/21-days-to-reverse-the-curse-over-america

  • Prophet Sharon Stone https://www.propheticvoice.com/about/

    Self-care:

  • SOMATIC AND EMDR:

• https://shop.giveaderm.com/

• Museums https://collections.museumofthebible.org/artifacts

  ARt online options

• https://sandbox.love/

• https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.creative.sandbox.number.drawning.coloring

• Sexual integrity

• Quiz Newlife.com Sex Addiction; Every Man’s Battle. For Men. https://sarvx4gtinu.typeform.com/to/xk1HBoas

sexual abuse:

Katie Morton Overcoming the Unspoken: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkSy4DZdxto&list=PL_loxoCVsWqyoJzKrFKyzSPjCqInaiP8x&index=5&ab_channel=KatiMorton

Sex Trafficing Training:

https://www.endingthegame.com/

• THERIAN:

• praying for those who struggle with identity confusion Be it gender or species. What is a therian?
  “Therian” is short for “therianthrope”. It means a person who identifies integrally as a nonhuman being, such as a wolf, polar bear, or even earthworm. While the two communities historically emerged separately, it has a lot of overlap with the “otherkin” community, which includes any individual that identifies as nonhuman (e.g. as an elf, dragon, or even fictional character). VILTE BALIUTAVICIUTE, MA, LPC

• What is a Fury?
  ”Furry is a fandom, just like any other. It includes anyone that enjoys the art of anthropomorphic animals. Some furries might dress up in costumes or attend gatherings, just as some readers of this blog may have painted their face for a sports event, or worn cosplay for a convention. Of course, there is overlap- a community where self-expression as an animal is welcomed will attract people who identify as nonhuman, but most furries identify as fully human.” VILTE BALIUTAVICIUTE, MA, LPC

  Senior resource Co

• https://www.assistedlivingcenter.com/cities/loveland-co-assisted-living/

  Somatic Experiencing:

• Peter Levine PHD https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/

• Vibroswing - system https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/se-tools

• SOMATIC Scott Lyons podcast THE GENTLY USED HUMAN PODCAST.

• TEENS:

• Theater Boulder Area Rocky Mountain Theater for Kids 

  TRAUMA:

• C-PTSD resources

• https://www.ptsd.va.gov/understand_tx/tx_basics.asp?

• https://www.ptsd.va.gov/family/how_help.asp?

• https://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/patient/index.asp?

• FLASH TECHNIQUE https://flashtechnique.com/wp/

• Trauma Recovery & Emplowerment by Maxine Harris, Ph.D. Connie Mitchell, LPC, www.FreedomsHopeCounseling.com

  Trauma Group Topics to be covered are: What it Means to be a Woman, Resources to Feel Better, Self-Esteem, Emotional & Physical Boundaries, Intimacy & Trust and Removing the Obstacles of Guilt & Shame. The group also covers female sexuality and understanding trauma and abuse in relationships. Further topics are: The body remembers, What is abuse? Trauma and compulsive behavior.

• TED talk BENE BROWN see also topics of Shame. www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability

• BOOKS Shame https://brenebrown.com/book/daring-greatly/

• Shame vs Guilt https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DqGFrId-IQg&ab_channel=JanFleury

• EMPATHY vs Sympathy (kid freindly) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HznVuCVQd10&ab_channel=CMM
   

• PODCAST PTSD BYTES: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/35-misconceptions-about-ptsd-part-ii--58609781

• The Praying Medic https://prayingmedic.com/2015/08/12/emotional-healing-made-simple/

• Sample declaration: “ Jesus take this (negative Emotion from a specific negative life event). ….from me. I ask you to heal the wound in my soul. NOW. I receive your healing. (repeat 3 times then to consider any other negative emotion that comes up. Do that emotion 3 times. Until there is no more charged negative emotions.

• MISSIONaries to Beliez: Currently in Fort Collins, CO mfisher@lolministry.com

REFERRALS:

GREELEY, CO Therapy with animals. https://peacefulpawstherapyllc.com/humans/

Online info https://healthunlocked.com/ptsd-support

Veterans Ministry: Berthoud

New Freeom Out Reach Center: Lock Shields, New Freedom's Veterans Ministry, will be falling in at 1833 hours (6:33PM). We meet on the 1st Tuesday of every month.

Wealth Managment: Beverly Hills Precious Metals

https://bh-pm.com/ Andrew Sorchini Ask them about converting your IRA to gold IRA. The gold is transported stored by Equity Trust.

spiritual resources:

Books: Blessing Your Spirit Arthur Burk, Sylvia Gunter.

https://joanhunter.org Joan Hunter Ministries focus is healing & missions

Praying for states 2024:

• Glory of Zion International Chuck Pierce Church in TX: https://tv.gloryofzion.org/ see the surrounding the nation focus is prayer for each state to notice the cultural injuries that have occurred to people groups and through collective prayer pray for healing in each state. No fee the date it occurs. See main page https://gloryofzion.org/

• OCT 12, 2024 9a-7pm The Esther Call. Prayer, fasting, wailing grief. 1Million Women DC mall. bring your Mordeci’’s, kids welcome. Pray for our nation. Seeking forgiveness for harm to children. https://amillionwomen.org/

https://hankandbrenda.org/daily-decree-live-with-brenda-kunneman/

Dutch Sheets 15 minute M-F prayer call https://www.givehim15.com/

https://www.truthforlife.org › resources › most-recent-sermons

Dr Michael Youssef https://www.ltw.org/about-us/dr-michael-youssef

SOZA This site describes it rather well. https://www.bethelsozo.com/colorado

SRA resources:

Kay Tolman books.

https://bridemovement.com/ Discovering the truth with Dan Duval.m Ritual abuse, repressed memories see Kay Tolman.

Christian Social media resources:

https://4wbn.com/

website Facts:

CAQH.

https://barcode.tec-it.com/en/MobileQRUrl

Resources:

https://www.larsonmentalhealth.com/fort-collins Jenny Tarr

Create great Websites Becky DeGrossa https://www.counselingwise.com/ https://www.counselingwise.com/google-business-profile

POLITICAL: praying for Peter N and his family. Integrity matters. https://www.givesendgo.com/navarro/donate

bibliotherapy options

Bibliotherapy options that might be helpful will be on the website under resources.

https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Life Without ED by Jenni Schaefer 

 Eat what You Love: Love.  What You Eat. Michelle May.  She has editions for Diabetes, Bariatric Surgery….

8 Keys to Recovery From an Eating Disorder.  Costin & Grabb

Am I Hungry? By Michelle May

BDD the Body Image Workbook: T Cash. 

ARFID:  The Picky Eater’s Recovery Book.  By JJ Thomas, KR Becker, & KT Eddy.

Mindful Eating: A Guide to Rediscovering a Healthy and Joyful Relationship with Food.

Almost Anorexic by Jennifer J Thomas PhD. & Jenni Schaefer.

Couples:

Hold Me Tight or Created For Connection-(scriptures same content as first book Dr Sue

Johnson EFT.

Intimacy: HOW WE LOVE by Milan & Kay Yerkovich. Learn your styles. check local library for copy. Consider reading to each other or listening to this in audible form.

Intuitive Eating Workbook: Evelyn Tribole, MS RDN, Elyse Resch, MS, RDN.

Self-esteem comes in all sizes: How to be happy & healthy at your natural weight.  Carol A Johnson MA.  

Boundaries by H Cloud & J Townsend.   See also edition B…in Marriage.

Self-esteem: Self-Compassion by K Neff

DBT Skills & Training Handouts & worksheets Linehan.  Or The DBT skills workbook  M.McKay, J.C.Wood, & J. Brantley.

Sexual integrity:

Every Man’s Battle S Arterburn & F Stoeker

Worthy of Her Trust.  S Arterburn & JB Martinkus

            Trauma Treatment Tool Box:  Jennifer Sweeton